Three mantras

I have learned something today. If you really want stay in peace and success in priority things in life then learn to say NO. Rather I would say dare to say ‘NO’, in situations where your important things in life are hampered for small things. This would happen only if you learn to hide your weakness and show your strength to world. Once your weak areas are known, people will literally take benefit of it. Saying yes is easy but saying no is difficult. But we need to practice saying NO. It was once told by one of my professor, but that time I did not realized it. But now i realized how important it is to say NO in some situations. Saying yes may solve a problem for particular moment but it may make your life hell after wards. For example in office, If you say no to some situations to your boss, then burden of work may be reduced. I am not saying to say no to important work, but to things which are not priority to particular period of time. Sometimes we miss BEST things of life saying yes for GOOD things. Saying NO is one of the strategies of time management also. It also reduces stress and everything remains transparent. Saying NO may give bad impression but life is not only to live for impressions. As said by one of my friend saying NO is also a management skill. If we don’t practice saying no then people will burden us with tons and tons of work, projects, and assignments. At the end you will get any acknowledgment and miss some valuable opportunities. Again since you have already said yes, you cannot withdraw your words. It will create mental pressure affect your health, your work, your surrounding person and sometimes relationships. Sometimes we say yes thinking what the opposite person may think, may feel bad, may be hurt. It is really possible that it will happen, but at same time we send a strong message that we have some other things to do within particular time limit. We should value time. Once I heard from my senior colleague that she was unable to complete her PhD work as she was overloaded with other work and she could not say no. Another friend she just said no for lab related activities, by which the relationship with her boss was hampered, but her time was saved for her work. You may say that you have work so unable to do the new things. But we should be polite enough to say so. Sometimes we are unable to say NO when you have many requests. If you know that a particular person is going to make request or assign any work, before the person requests you say you are very busy. Use the line “I’d love to, but”. This would send the message that this sounds like a great project to you, but you just can’t because of your schedule or other commitments. Sometimes people ask for requests many times reading your mind that if you  are requested so many times then you may say yes. So don’t worry about it and simple say you are really busy. They may say that if you are busy now then come after wards then you also gain say No with polite but firm voice. Sometimes we say sorry for saying no. Again we make a great mistake because here we send the person the message that saying no we made a big mistake. So never say you are sorry. Just love and respect your time. So use the mantra of NO and dare to speak NO.

Three mantras

Do not say YES every time.

Do not look for OTHERS impression on you always

Do not bother to listen PRAISE OR BLAMING to stay happy